What Do You Do,When You Love Someone That You Cannot Have.

One of life’s known tragedies is in loving someone who doesn’t love you back. At almost every point in time, people have been known to have feelings for people they can’t have, people who would rather be with other people than them.
For everyone who has ever been in this situation, the ache is unforgettable; a concoction of feeling rejected, of feeling insufficient. Being desperate to get the person’s attention, and at the same time willing one’s self to forget the attraction and just move on as if it never happened, as if it’s not there.

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The only question is, do you have the power to overcome them and reach that desired goal.

We all want first-class honour not only because of the lucrative jobs that comes with it, but the confidence and feeling of achievements that comes with graduating with best marks.

Here are top 10 secrets of what you should do to get first class

1: A personal relationship with God

In this area God is number one, in the sense that no matter how you read, attend lectures, burn night candles, if God is not there, just forget about it.

Always put God in the front line when faced with any kind of challenge.

2: Stay focused

Staying focused is essential in achieving your aim, you may be faced with different kind of distractions from friends but you have to stay determined.

Always try to keep the dream alive.

3: Stay ahead of others

Always try to read ahead, be ahead of the normal class lectures, be ahead of the lecturers, ahead of your mates.

4: Attend classes

Making first-class honour your aim, you shouldn’t take this point lightly, because this is the main reason of going to school.

Missing lectures for no reason shows lack of seriousness and taking your education with levity hands, which are not part of the characteristics of a first-class student.

5: Associate with serious people

This is very important, because your association matters a lot, making friends who are serious brings even more will to succeed.

But on the other hand, associating with friends who are not serious make you to be like them one day.

There is a saying that, show me your friend and I will tell you whom you are.

6: Find help if needed

Always ask serious friends, lecturer, about anything that may seem to confuse you, because you can never know everything at a time.

If you don’t understand any course or assignment, feel free to approach any lecturer or senior who knows more than you do, that is also a way of gaining additional knowledge.

7: Have a personal interest in your course

Most people fail to get first-class because at the beginning they didn’t have interest in the course that they were given.

If you don’t develop interest in your course, you definitely will not enjoy it, and when you don’t enjoy it studying for tests and examination becomes ineffective.

8: Have a study group or reading partner

The truth is that no one is an island of knowledge, no matter how brilliant you are, they are some more intelligent than you.
All you have to do is find those people make friends with them, create a study group for sharing knowledge.

Find partners who can motivate and challenge you into action, engage yourself in competition with them, but a healthy one.

9: Always try to know many thing

A character of a first class student is the hunger for knowledge, they always try to learn new things, they take time to make researches a gain clearer knowledge of a particular course.

This gives them a broad understanding and make them perform excellently well in all tests and exams.

10: Make Relationship a no go area

It is very rare or impossible to see a first-class graduate having a boyfriend or girlfriend in school, that serves as the maximum distraction a student can get during schooling.

Relationship always attract emotions, which always disorganize a student and leads to low grade and poor student performance

Always make studying your primary reason of going to school.

Meet The Pretty Genius Who Broke A 28-Year-Old Record In Medicine In OAU

Records Broken again but this time it’s was a clean clearance as Miss Aarinola Olaiya from Usin Ekiti,Ikole Local Government of Ekiti State broke a 28 years jinx in Oau.

She has 12 Distinctions. 17 Awards awaiting her on Convocation Day. Obafemi Awolowo University released her Final MBChB result and this wonderful, cheeeful and Hot Brain lady broke a 28th year old Record in the Presence of Distinguished Professors in Surgery Department like Almighty: Professor Adejuyigbe,Professor Lawal,Professor Akinola,Professor Adesunkanmi and Professor Agbakwuru and other Distinguished Professor’s.

She not only took Distinction in Surgery but her sister Course Medicine too. This is the Breakdown of Her Records:

Part Three First MBChB Examination.

Distinction in Medical Biochemistry

Medical Physiological Sciences.

Part Four Second MBChB Examination

Distinction in Pathology

Distinction in Pharmacology

Distinction in CLI

Part five Third MBChB Examination.

Distinction in Dermatology and Venerology

Distinction in Mental Health

Distinction in Obestrics and Gynecology

Part Six Final MBChB Examination Result

Distinction in Surgery

Distinction in Medicine

Distinction in Community Health.

Let’s keep sending this record till it’s gets to Nigerian Government and CNN. Whoever that knows what these records will definitely know this young beautiful lady must have read her eyes out.

It takes diligence and more than hard work to achieve this Great Success. #Youneedtoknow


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Real Reason Why I Left Arsenal—Alexis Sanchez.    You Won’t Believe!

Manchester United striker, Alexis Sanchez has revealed the real reasons he left Arsenal.

The Chilean international, who joined United few hours ago, said he did not feel ‘loved and important’ in former club and believes it will not be the same in Old Trafford.

The 29-year-old, who has been handed the number 7 shirt at Old Trafford, indicated that ‘feeling important’ was part of his decision to leave the North London club.

The long-anticipated swap deal that saw Henrikh Mkhitaryan head in the opposite direction was completed on Monday, bringing to a conclusion one of the biggest transfer stories of the January window.

Sanchez told MUTV, “He indicated it is important for the club for me to be here,” he said, “I also believe that the club itself cared about me joining, and I got the impression that they were keen for me to come here and wear the number seven shirt.”

“I think that also gets through to the player. Players sometimes need to feel important and loved by the club. That was one of the things that attracted me to come here, along with the manager, who is a person who won everything in Italy, the same as he did in Spain, and he’s a manager who likes to win.”

5 Things Extraordinary People Do To Act Differently.

Being ordinary is boring and is definitely not a good plan. Throughout my life in school, college and office, I have seen there are ordinary and there are extraordinary people. At a time, I believed living an extraordinary life is only possible for filthy rich and popular ones. Will I be able to ever live that life? With years of experience of living a life of mediocrity gradually, it became clear to me that being ridiculously wealthy or traveling to the stars or becoming famous won’t lead me to an extraordinary life. It is not something that I will get the approval of others but something that could be achieved if I focus on the little things in life. Here at ProofHub, I am living a life that is extraordinary and
empowering my teams to be more productive in their life.

Life is an adventure and we have the power to make it a grand adventure. Appreciate the extraordinary things that we fail to realize but are already a part of our life. It is a matter of mindset that can make your ordinary life into an extraordinary.

How does extraordinary happen?

If you think something you are doing is extraordinary, you are then definitely living an extraordinary life. Extraordinary starts with YOU- you have to break the chains of fear that keeps you locked into the system. Day by day you have to keep doing a lot extra to be something extra.

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Extraordinary is everywhere and you can live an extraordinary life being an extraordinary personality by doing these things that extraordinary people do:

1. Leave the comfort and stop following the “majority”

“The person who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The person who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever seen before.”

― Albert Einstein

People living an extraordinary life are not weary of what others will say about them. They are not fearful of evolving and always try to be an extraordinary version of themselves. If you want to become extraordinary, it can not happen in a comfortable environment that many of us prefer to live in. If you wish to avoid pain and discomfort, you will never step out of the majority crowd. So, to continue living your dreams to live an extraordinary life, you should be willing to pay the price. Stop living in the big, safe crowd and leave the comfort. If you want to reach the top of the mountain, you will have to leave the city.

2. The rise of collaboration

The collaboration is the trending word. It is used for people working towards a common goal. Living an extraordinary life in today’s time is not just your wish. There are people who are running towards the same thing and people who already are living an extraordinary life. Hang out with these people. Spend a little time with them, how they act, how they speak and what they do. If you feel blue when every time you think of living an extraordinary life does not take a step back. Dreaming is extremely energizing as it pushes us to take a step out of our ordinary life. So, reach out to collaborate on social media with people living extraordinary lives. Follow some really inspirational people and open your mind to new ways of thinking. Implement sharing thoughts,

produce powerful ideas, implement collaboration and move towards a new direction. Fortunately, things will change.

3. “Can’t” and “won’t” doesn’t mean the same

How many times did you get stuck between the two: can’t and won’t. I can’t drive my car. I can’t tell you about this. I can’t stop crying. I can’t make it. The truth is that you are the one who interchanges the two words and accordingly set up your mind. There are some things we are too ashamed to admit that we won’t do and therefore we say that it cannot be done. And that is not the sign of an extraordinary person. So, the next time just tries to replace can’t with won’t and see the difference it makes to your thoughts and actions.

4. Do not be regretful of your values and ethics

“Apart from values and ethics which I have tried to live by, the legacy I would like to leave behind is a very simple one — that I have always stood up for what I consider to be the right thing, and I have tried to be as fair and equitable as I could be.” Ratan Tata

Living a life without regret is possible when you fail to live in relation with your most authentic self. Your life is your set principles and when your principles and value are clear, your decisions will be easier. Extraordinary people do not live in the environment of the majority and therefore they do not find it difficult to stick to their values. To be extraordinary, you must be committed to your values without regret. Those who do not like the way you live, it is their problem. Live up to your values and without anybody’s consent leaving behind the ordinary lifestyle.

5. Always indulge in self-care

How often do you treat yourself with kindness and compassion? One of the best things people living an extraordinary life do to themselves is realize their worth and take a break for their personal care. You actually would not realize the importance unless you do it. Your inner self will always jabber to you about the many things you have to do and will push you towards the need of others before your own. Giving yourself some “me time” will bring out your best selves and allow you to move ahead of ordinary life.

Ultimately, living an extraordinary life is a journey and the above points will help you see something extraordinary happening. You are responsible for the transformation from ordinary to extraordinary as you have to give your safety nets to achieve something more.

Two Mistakes We Make In Love. 

Today was a full day at work, and when I got back to my apartment and considered what I wanted to post, I breathed deeply and thought, “I just want to write something pretty.”
“Something pretty” is how you got an image with ivy on it today.

And it’s also how you got some citations from The Art of Loving, which I read over the weekend and was, as promised, one of those rare books that rises to the top as “good.” And, sure, “pretty.” And while it reads a little more sullenly that I was feeling, I still ran my fingers through some of the good parts, right there in chapter one, to share them with you here.

People know that love is important.
I believe this. I believe that people subscribe to the promises of love, and I believe that we are, for the most part, optimists on the subject. (Even those of us who are jaded are only jaded because we were (and deep down still are) optimists.)

But people often mess up the doing of love, and to that I gently take you by the shoulder and scoot you a little to the left. Because: most of us are doing this wrong.

People like love
But in the wrong way.

“They are starved for it; they watch endless numbers of films about happy and unhappy love stories, they listen to hundreds of trashy songs about love — yet hardly anyone thinks that there is anything that needs to be learned about love.” — Fromm, The Art of Loving
All of us, it seems, instead aspire to “fall into it,” to find ourselves swept up in the feelings we see portrayed (and, to an extent, project) in everything we consume about love, and we end up feeling more strongly about our idealization of love than we do about love itself.

We typically suffer from one if not both of the following mistakes about “love:”

1. Most people love primarily as “being loved,” rather than “loving.”
Hence the focus, for the vast majority of us, is on getting the most we can out of the transaction — and even those who position ourselves as “lovers” or “givers” are subconsciously (and in a self-sabotaging manner) really just looking to get (in this case, “appreciation,” “admiration,” or, simply, “love.”)

They think this exchange is honorable, but in reality it’s just the other side of the same coin, all of us looking to “get love,” and most of us “giving” something that looks and feels like “love” simply in order to get it back.

Many of us are consumed with the “fairness” of the exchange, wanting to talk in terms of who does “more,” and keeping score as though we’re opponents — or business partners — and not a single organism, where self love is love is self love.

At this point, people always want to @ me to talk about self love vs. selflessness vs. selfishness, because so many of us make the mistake of misinterpreting “self love” to mean “selfish.” In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. On the contrary, selfish people always lack real self love and are overcompensating for it. Love is all or nothing — we cannot love one person (either our partner or ourself) at the expense of the other. Love doesn’t work that way. Love builds on itself, and all of us are interconnected. So only when we truly love ourselves can we truly love another, and only when we do a good job of giving ourselves love and taking care of our own needs (without using others) can we enter into relationships with full hearts.

2. Most people assume love is an endpoint or feeling — rather than an ongoing decision and action.
They experience a fleeting feeling and are quick to call it “love,” and the biggest problem with doing so is that the minute that feeling fades (and it always does), we assume we’ve “fallen out of love”

“This attitude — that nothing is easier than to love — has continued to be the prevalent idea about love in spite of the overwhelming evidence to the contrary.”

Love takes work — but we’re so often slow to treat it as such. We’d rather endure half-hearted arrangements and let things fall apart, chalking it up as a fluke error or poor partner choice. And then we enter the next relationship, sights set high but with nothing to show by way of mindset improvement (other than blind optimism and/or a degree of jadedness.)

“There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love. If this were the case with any other activity, people would be eager to know the reasons for the failure, and to learn how one could do better — or they would give up the activity. Since the latter is impossible in the case of love, there seems to be only one adequate way to overcome the failure of love — to examine the reasons for this failure, and to proceed to study the meaning of love.” — Fromm, The Art of Loving
The meaning of love — healthy love — being a rich and complex question, but something undeniably built on emotional health and respect for one another as individuals, not just as warm bodies who fill the role of “our boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner/spouse/etc.”

It means entering into relationships without a list of qualifications or expectations, especially around how we anticipate our partner “making us happy” or, equally, how we strive to “make them happy.” It’s simply being happy together, while fully understanding that it is not our partner’s job to make us happy — or ours theirs.

The meaning of love is to grow together, not hold each other in one spot. In that sense, it can seem to go against our lizard-brain desire for security and stability. Mature love supports and inspires and promotes. Mature love is breathing and living/